An Expression of Pet Peeves
*Inhales deeply* and…
Among the things that irks me greatly is when someone or some people would complain and complain without even suggesting a better and suitable alternative. It really annoys me when they never seem to fail to find something to complain about, and yet fail to offer a solution. C’mon! If you can’t be a part of the solution, why add to the problem?
And oh, another thing that gets me riled up is when a person sees the negative things first without considering the positive things that greatly outweighs the down side. Or when people seem to love to pick on or dwell on the negative side of life and complain how dismal the situation is. Or when someone seems to look for a disadvantage or inconvenience (or make one when there isn’t any) without even so much casting a lingering glance on the good side. And in situations, they seem to always have something unpleasant to say, neglecting to look at the overall scope of things. Wow, truly their world is small if they think that it has to revolve around them and their conveniences alone!
Am I looking through rose-colored glasses here by saying these? Am I blinding myself from reality, by wanting to focus on the positive things? Definitely not. I am not against being aware of the concerns. I am not against welcoming the possibility and the “just in case”. I am not against being prepared for possible unwanted incidents. I am not shutting my eyes close to the harsh reality of what is probable and possible to happen. But I am against dwelling on negativity, especially if it doesn’t help, when it cannot alter anything, and especially when it’s trivial. I neither applaud pessimism, nor admire an immediate response of any form of resignation from someone who didn’t put in much consideration of the matter or situation at hand, or from someone who, by their complains, seemed to ruin it for or dampen the happiness of those who chose to respond positively, and especially from someone who isn’t inclined to help make things better.
I’m sorry but that’s what I feel. Unless I am illuminated to think otherwise, these things remain among the great pet peeves that annoyingly irks me.
One more pet peeve I have is when a person is overly sensitive. Take note: I don’t mean sensitive people. I mean WHEN someone is OVERLY sensitive. Those who would easily get upset with you over little and trivial things, that sends you wondering about a right way of saying things when you seemed to exhaust all the possible ways of delivery given in both English language and your own dialect. (Ok so maybe I exaggerated a bit about the exhaustion of verbal expression. But I hope you do get what I mean.) Plus, when they’re overly sensitive that you would seem to freeze into a stand still in fear that one wrong move would wound –no, not wound, but rip– their seemingly onion-skin pride. It makes me quite uncomfortable when such people would get so upset just because they were not greeted, even if it just happened once. Or when they would hold it against you just because you didn’t seem to cater to their desire, or when you didn’t seem to give in to their wishes, which they never told you in the first place anyway. It makes me annoyingly uncomfortable rather than regretful when such people would refuse to talk to me or hold a grudge against me over such petty things, as if every trivial thing is important, and as if they are the only one who has the right to feel and act that way.
But I know some of my relatives, friends, and even acquaintances who could fall into (take note: who COULD fall into and NOT who ARE into) such category. So, don’t get me wrong. I am not saying I cease to love and respect them, or that I love and respect them any less. I do not hate nor dislike them. I just do not like the act of being overly sensitive. I get disinterested to engage if or when they would over-react and be overly particular so much so that they would perform a miracle by making unneccessary matters become preciously important. And tho’ I find this less irksome than pessimism (yung sa mga dakilang nega) it still made it to the list.
God, while You take Your time in lovingly preparing these people to receive a better disposition in life, I hope and pray that You will grant me more patience, more understanding, and more love to keep me from condemning them as I struggle with these pet peeves .
*Exhale* and then *a relaxing sigh*…
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